You’re not alone..

It’s been days since I had a mental block – you know that feeling when you feel not being able to process your minds or thoughts into words. And each time I sat to wrote, I was blank. Even now when I’m typing, I don’t know what will come out.. but the only thing I know and I want is .. to be able to strike and pen down words that might benefit someone, thoughts that might bring positivity into someone’s life, chanel someone towards the right path or perhaps bring ray of hope to a dull heart. .

What could be best than talking to mothers who are struggling to achive what they thought they might from this ramadan. .

So mummies who wake up early for sahoor to make sure everyone’s meal is cooked on time and you ate too despite a baby clinged to you- you’re not alone.

Mummies who plan beautiful ibadat in mind and heart but each night fall on bed tired and disheartened- you’re not alone- indeen Allah knows your heart and niyat.

Mummies who struggle praying namaz with kids jumping and screaming on them, pulling off your scarf and arms and legs- you’re not alone. Allah is ghafoor indeed.

Mummies who spend their days dropping and picking up kids from school in this heat and handling chores on the wheel round the clock, you’re not alone.

Mummies who clean up the entire mess after iftar despite being super tired, You’re not alone.

Mummies who dearly miss going to masjid for taraweh and qiyam as their kids are small and might trouble them – you’re not alone. .

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Allah is the knower of all, the one who sees and knows what’s in your heart. Never get sad on not being able to do the best of your ibadat- this is a form of ibadat too- the best one. .

As we’re entering the most beautiful last ashra of ramadan, gear up once again to make the most of it. There’s still time and lots of blessings to be plucked and gathered from this beautiful garden of Ramadan❤️

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You’re not alone— this time in Ramadan…. . . It’s been days since I had a mental block – you know that feeling when you feel not being able to process your mind or thoughts into words. And each time I sat to wrote, I was blank. Even now when I’m typing, I don’t know what will come out.. but the only thing I know and I want is .. to be able to strike and pen down words that might benefit someone, thoughts that might bring positivity into someone’s life, chanel someone towards the right path or perhaps bring ray of hope to a dull heart. . What could be best than talking to mothers who are struggling to achive what they thought they might from this ramadan. . So mummies who wake up early for sahoor to make sure everyone’s meal is cooked on time and you ate too despite a baby clinged to you- you’re not alone. – Mummies who plan beautiful ibadat in mind and heart but each night fall on bed tired and disheartened- you’re not alone- indeen Allah knows your heart and niyat. – Mummies who struggle praying namaz with kids jumping and screaming on them, pulling off your scarf and arms and legs- you’re not alone. Allah is ghafoor indeed. – Mummies who spend their days dropping and picking up kids from school in this heat and handling chores on the wheel round the clock, you’re not alone. – Mummies who clean up the entire mess after iftar despite being super tired, You’re not alone. – Mummies who dearly miss going to masjid for taraweh and qiyam as their kids are small and might trouble them – you’re not alone. . . Allah is the knower of all, the one who sees and knows what’s in your heart. Never get sad on not being able to do the best of your ibadat- this is a form of ibadat too- the best one. . As we’re entering the most beautiful last ashra of ramadan, gear up once again to make the most of it. There’s still time and lots of blessings to be plucked and gathered from this beautiful garden of Ramadan❤️ . . #ramadan #motherhood #muslimah #parenting #blessings #islam #muslimkids #candidchildhood .

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Ramadan day 4 *Letter to the Heart that is numb*

*Letter to the Heart that is numb*

To the heart that is numb,

Standing in taraweeh (Ramadan night prayers) while everyone is weeping – except you. Your friends talk about how exhilarating fasting is for them – but all you feel is irritation; and that is if you feel anything at all. Your duas are just words you repeat – without heart.

What is the point of all of it? Your actions are robotic. Monotone. Without soul.

You wish you could be like that person praying next to you in taraweeh who sobs during every prostration. You want to be the one passionately pleading with Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) with humility. Your hope is that you can be that person whose heart is broken before God.

You know what, though? You, too, are special to Allah (swt).

You who recites the Qur’an because you know it is good.

You who prays because Allah (swt) commanded you to.

You who attends lectures on Islam because you want to feel closer to Him.

The Prophet ﷺ told us that the person who recites the Qur’an and struggles with the recitation receives twice the reward: for their recitation and for their effort and struggle. Ibn Al-Qayyim used this hadith (tradition of the Prophet ﷺ) as the basis for his statement that the person who struggles to be devoted in prayer gets twice the reward: for the parts that he was devoted, and for his struggle to stay focused.

*As long as you are trying, Allah (swt) is with you.*

The fact that you get up to pray qiyaam (night prayer) even though you feel nothing is appreciated by Allah (swt). When you mouth the words to your du`a even when your heart is numb, Allah (swt) knows how you feel. And you are rewarded for that. Do not think that this will go to waste.

Allah (swt) gets it.

Because you are not worshiping a feeling. You do not bow down solely for that ‘high’. *You prostrate only to the Lord of the feelings and the One who is the Most High*. You submit to Him – through your prayers, fasting and supplication – because you know you have a Merciful, Appreciative, Forgiving God, Who has the power to give life to everything that is dead.

*Including your heart.*

You know you have a Nurturing, Patient, Generous, Subtle and Kind Rabb who is can bring back whatever is lost.

*He can bring you back.*

So to the heart that is numb: Do not give up just yet. Your heart is on a journey. You are first and foremost worshiping your Lord. And He has promised you:

“And those who strive for Us – We will surely guide them to Our ways. And indeed, Allah is with the doers of good.” (Qur’an, 29:69)

As long as you are doing good, Allah (swt) will guide you and He is with you. Do you know what that means?

Imam Ash-Shawkani stated that Allah (swt) being with someone means more care, honoring and preference for the person.

And you what else? Allah loves what you do. He tells us:

“Indeed, those who have believed and done righteous deeds – the Most Merciful will appoint for them affection.” (Qur’an, 19:96)

Allah will not only love you, but He will show that love for you. He will bestow His affection upon you, and your heart will feel it.

So keep trekking. Your heart will open – He is, after all, al Fattah. Al-Fattah is He who opens whatever is closed; your heart included. You might wonder when and how, but just know that it will happen. It could be on the last night of Ramadan or it could be a month after Ramadan – your heart will open, ان شاءالله. The daily exercise you do might not look like much, but you will inevitably see the results if you persevere. Similarly, your good actions slowly chip away at what has been hardening your heart and, eventually, you will feel.

*And if it gets too much, just talk to Allah (swt)* Tell Him how you feel, and tell Him how you want to feel. Do it every night, and every time you feel empty. God is there; never underestimate your turning to Him. ‘Turning to Him’ does not just mean prayers and supplications; you can just tell Him what is in your heart.

On the Day of Judgment, you will be grateful for your perseverance and your hope in Him, because it will matter more than you will ever know. So push yourself and exert all the effort you can muster. *The tiniest ray of light can brighten the darkest of places.*

Love,

A fellow heart that is* numb

(*was)

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Step inside my Ramadan Freezer!

Meal preps is an essential thing in Ramadan. For me, it saves me time and keep home cooked food stored right when you need the most! That is while going through a tough day with a 2 year old while fasting.

Okay before I go ahead, if you’re a mum who enjoys buying all ready made stuff, you’re amazing too. If you’re someone who likes ordering, you’re perfect too and if you’re someone who has help at home in making this- you’re super lucky!! This is my personal way as I enjoy doing all this. Please don’t feel bad while reading that you’re less worthy;) instead you can say – ”omg such a jobless mama 😂!”

I thought of taking you guys through my freezer, a typical Pakistani one in Ramadan. A week before Ramadan, I start preparing. This includes deep cleaning my home, rearranging shelves, ironing a few nice shalwar kameez and preparing food items that can be frozen.

I’m sure many of you do exactly or way better than this.

So here are few things that you will find in my fridge and freezer! Also you’re most welcome to join me for iftar! I’m prepared😛

Chicken Spring rolls! Ok- I love these!! So I make sure I am well stocked. One roll in my iftar is a must. I prepare the mixture with boiled and shredded chicken, cabbage, carrots, spring onions and capsicum. I even add boiled thin spaghetti! A little soya sauce, vinegar – salt and pepper! Done!

Boiled chicken breast chunks! These come in handy for quick chicken sandwiches. Just defrost, shread , add mayonnaise or anything you like with some iceberg lettuce and you’re good to go! 🙂 – Also, I don’t throw away the chicken stock, freeze them in batches as its super helpful to be added in other food you’re cooking 😎

Chickpeas: Okay this is a must if you’re a desi! Boiled chick peas – white and black! A nice spicy chana chat with papri , yoghurt, and chaat masala. Such a help to be stocked well! Not just chana chat, they’re super helpful in making quick chana pulao when you’re totally out of ideas to cook.

Mini Samosas: These I made yesterday as I was missing having them in iftar. Crispy and spicy. I made the mixture with chicken mince, onions, coriander and green chilies- perfect crunchy bite sized for iftar. In a few ,I just added shredded cheese as my husband likes them 🙂

Shami Kababs: Sehri is incomplete without a shami kabab with paratha. There are days when you’re out of eggs or not feeling like having the usual oatmeal, omlette or salan( gravy) , fry a kabab and enjoy with paratha! These you will find in my freezer all around the year. Not just Ramadan.

Frozen fruits for smoothies: This is something new that I’m doing this Ramadan. I have frozen batches of berries and bananas ( that went extra soft) in my freezer. For iftar, I just add them in the blender along with some fresh yoghurt and milk and a refreshing quick smoothie is ready! No need for ice! Very very helpful.

Homemade Tamarind Sauce: no chat is complete without this sweet imli sauce. So I prepared a batch of this to last me all Ramadan. Just imli, jaggery, few dates and kalunji. Hayee chatpati and mazedar!

Along with all these, I have a packet of french fries, frozen pizza dough and frozes parathas always stocked up!! With a toddler, it’s super helpful to be over prepared! all this is really helping me to focus more on using the time for zikr and duas rather than in the kitchen!

What’s your Ramadan freezer like?

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Okay before I go ahead, if you're a mum who enjoys buying all ready made stuff, you're amazing too. If you're someone who likes ordering, you're perfect too and if you're someone who has help at home in making these , you're super lucky!! This is my personal way as I enjoy doing all this. Please don't feel bad while reading that you're less worthy;) instead you can say – ''omg such a jobless mama 😂!'' . . Also please- we get one month a year to munch on samosas and pakorays- healthy gurus please let us enjoy and stand far away getting jealous on seeing us munching with green mint chutney! Hayeee😂😂 . . Link in bio @frommummytonayel – I would love to read what is in your freezer this Ramadan. Please leave me a comment! 🙂 enjoy 😉 . . ————————————————————————— #timeoutkidsdubai #uaemoms #dubaimoms #growingup #motherhood #dubaiblogger #uaemomblogger #momtogs #littleandbrave #honestparenting #mumlife #oureverydaymoments #letthembelittle #uniteinmotherhood #thatsdarling #nothingisordinary #mashAllah #mummyblogger #childhoodunplugged #clickinmoms #littlethings #dubaiexpat #hijabiblogger #muslimmom #motherhood #foodblogger #muslimstyle #mbdailyposts #muslimshblogger #ramadan #ramadanfood

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Welcoming Ramadan with toddlers

I keep editing this particular banner onto a countdown to Ramadan! Yes we’re almost a month away now and inshAllah will be entering the most beautiful and blessed month of all- Ramadan.

This will be even more special for me as after 2 years – I will be fasting all inshAllah- no more breastfeeding 😁!!

Also- Nayel is 2 now and he has started to comprehend and understand things around him! So I’m super excited to celebrate Ramadan with him! If you’re thinking how with a toddler, let me take you through onto our first mini planning and I pray these might be helpful for you with kids at home too:)

1. Decorating the house:

We do birthdays and weddings, and we see alot of Halloween, Christmas and Diwali set up around, why not Ramadan? Make it fun with your kids and set up your home. Older the kids , more the fun. Balloons, banners, laterns, calender , DIY Ramadan crafts- make it interesting for kids! It’s the most beautiful time for bonding as a family for us Muslims! (Images via Pinterest for reference only)

A super cute online shop: My Little Ruhm

https://frommummytonayel.wordpress.com/2018/05/08/make-room-for-little-ruhm-this-ramadan-and-eid%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f/

2. Create a personalized pray area:

Google and Pinterest are right on our tips now and I have seen so many cute ideas for little masjid at home for kids! If you can go fancy , great ! If not- even handmade charts, keeping prayer mats, puting up lights and telling kids this is their own little home masjid would make a great difference. Imagine how they love their doll houses or play pens- this will be a special place for them to sit and do their Ramadan crafts or for you to pray with them.

(Pictures source- unknows via pinterest )

3. Celebrate everyday’s little things:

Talk about Ramadan with your kids. Tell them what it is, watch cartoons that is related in teaching them about Ramadan. Take them for grocery shopping for Ramadan to involve them. Be it as simple as choosing dates and rooh afza or asking for Dua together before iftar. Tell them to dress up nicely, stay clean and about doing good deeds.

4. Wishing Ramadan:

On the night of 1st Ramadan, get them to call or message family member with you. Make videos and voice notes as families to send across wishing and praying for everyone. Take memorable pictures! Make cards, buy little gifts for family and friends and personally go and wish:)- you need to show and create enthusiasm so they get in that mood. It will stay with them forever ❤️

5. Books and Crafts:

There are so many books on Ramadan available now, get them and read with your kids. Talk about different cultures and tell them what people do in Ramadan around the globe. Take out activities from books for kids to enjoy. Be it colouring, making crafts or learning new words. You will find endless options on the Internet!

Find some interesting books here :

http://coloursofus.com/childrens-books-ramadan/

Let’s pray this Ramadan brings happiness and peace across the globe and make us a good muslim example to lead for our kids.

What would you add in this list?

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This post is part of the UAE Mom Bloggers Blog Hop for Ramadan.

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