Ramadan day 4 *Letter to the Heart that is numb*

*Letter to the Heart that is numb*

To the heart that is numb,

Standing in taraweeh (Ramadan night prayers) while everyone is weeping – except you. Your friends talk about how exhilarating fasting is for them – but all you feel is irritation; and that is if you feel anything at all. Your duas are just words you repeat – without heart.

What is the point of all of it? Your actions are robotic. Monotone. Without soul.

You wish you could be like that person praying next to you in taraweeh who sobs during every prostration. You want to be the one passionately pleading with Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) with humility. Your hope is that you can be that person whose heart is broken before God.

You know what, though? You, too, are special to Allah (swt).

You who recites the Qur’an because you know it is good.

You who prays because Allah (swt) commanded you to.

You who attends lectures on Islam because you want to feel closer to Him.

The Prophet ﷺ told us that the person who recites the Qur’an and struggles with the recitation receives twice the reward: for their recitation and for their effort and struggle. Ibn Al-Qayyim used this hadith (tradition of the Prophet ﷺ) as the basis for his statement that the person who struggles to be devoted in prayer gets twice the reward: for the parts that he was devoted, and for his struggle to stay focused.

*As long as you are trying, Allah (swt) is with you.*

The fact that you get up to pray qiyaam (night prayer) even though you feel nothing is appreciated by Allah (swt). When you mouth the words to your du`a even when your heart is numb, Allah (swt) knows how you feel. And you are rewarded for that. Do not think that this will go to waste.

Allah (swt) gets it.

Because you are not worshiping a feeling. You do not bow down solely for that ‘high’. *You prostrate only to the Lord of the feelings and the One who is the Most High*. You submit to Him – through your prayers, fasting and supplication – because you know you have a Merciful, Appreciative, Forgiving God, Who has the power to give life to everything that is dead.

*Including your heart.*

You know you have a Nurturing, Patient, Generous, Subtle and Kind Rabb who is can bring back whatever is lost.

*He can bring you back.*

So to the heart that is numb: Do not give up just yet. Your heart is on a journey. You are first and foremost worshiping your Lord. And He has promised you:

“And those who strive for Us – We will surely guide them to Our ways. And indeed, Allah is with the doers of good.” (Qur’an, 29:69)

As long as you are doing good, Allah (swt) will guide you and He is with you. Do you know what that means?

Imam Ash-Shawkani stated that Allah (swt) being with someone means more care, honoring and preference for the person.

And you what else? Allah loves what you do. He tells us:

“Indeed, those who have believed and done righteous deeds – the Most Merciful will appoint for them affection.” (Qur’an, 19:96)

Allah will not only love you, but He will show that love for you. He will bestow His affection upon you, and your heart will feel it.

So keep trekking. Your heart will open – He is, after all, al Fattah. Al-Fattah is He who opens whatever is closed; your heart included. You might wonder when and how, but just know that it will happen. It could be on the last night of Ramadan or it could be a month after Ramadan – your heart will open, ان شاءالله. The daily exercise you do might not look like much, but you will inevitably see the results if you persevere. Similarly, your good actions slowly chip away at what has been hardening your heart and, eventually, you will feel.

*And if it gets too much, just talk to Allah (swt)* Tell Him how you feel, and tell Him how you want to feel. Do it every night, and every time you feel empty. God is there; never underestimate your turning to Him. ‘Turning to Him’ does not just mean prayers and supplications; you can just tell Him what is in your heart.

On the Day of Judgment, you will be grateful for your perseverance and your hope in Him, because it will matter more than you will ever know. So push yourself and exert all the effort you can muster. *The tiniest ray of light can brighten the darkest of places.*

Love,

A fellow heart that is* numb

(*was)

**shared ** – source – unknown

Step inside my Ramadan Freezer!

Meal preps is an essential thing in Ramadan. For me, it saves me time and keep home cooked food stored right when you need the most! That is while going through a tough day with a 2 year old while fasting.

Okay before I go ahead, if you’re a mum who enjoys buying all ready made stuff, you’re amazing too. If you’re someone who likes ordering, you’re perfect too and if you’re someone who has help at home in making this- you’re super lucky!! This is my personal way as I enjoy doing all this. Please don’t feel bad while reading that you’re less worthy;) instead you can say – ”omg such a jobless mama 😂!”

I thought of taking you guys through my freezer, a typical Pakistani one in Ramadan. A week before Ramadan, I start preparing. This includes deep cleaning my home, rearranging shelves, ironing a few nice shalwar kameez and preparing food items that can be frozen.

I’m sure many of you do exactly or way better than this.

So here are few things that you will find in my fridge and freezer! Also you’re most welcome to join me for iftar! I’m prepared😛

Chicken Spring rolls! Ok- I love these!! So I make sure I am well stocked. One roll in my iftar is a must. I prepare the mixture with boiled and shredded chicken, cabbage, carrots, spring onions and capsicum. I even add boiled thin spaghetti! A little soya sauce, vinegar – salt and pepper! Done!

Boiled chicken breast chunks! These come in handy for quick chicken sandwiches. Just defrost, shread , add mayonnaise or anything you like with some iceberg lettuce and you’re good to go! 🙂 – Also, I don’t throw away the chicken stock, freeze them in batches as its super helpful to be added in other food you’re cooking 😎

Chickpeas: Okay this is a must if you’re a desi! Boiled chick peas – white and black! A nice spicy chana chat with papri , yoghurt, and chaat masala. Such a help to be stocked well! Not just chana chat, they’re super helpful in making quick chana pulao when you’re totally out of ideas to cook.

Mini Samosas: These I made yesterday as I was missing having them in iftar. Crispy and spicy. I made the mixture with chicken mince, onions, coriander and green chilies- perfect crunchy bite sized for iftar. In a few ,I just added shredded cheese as my husband likes them 🙂

Shami Kababs: Sehri is incomplete without a shami kabab with paratha. There are days when you’re out of eggs or not feeling like having the usual oatmeal, omlette or salan( gravy) , fry a kabab and enjoy with paratha! These you will find in my freezer all around the year. Not just Ramadan.

Frozen fruits for smoothies: This is something new that I’m doing this Ramadan. I have frozen batches of berries and bananas ( that went extra soft) in my freezer. For iftar, I just add them in the blender along with some fresh yoghurt and milk and a refreshing quick smoothie is ready! No need for ice! Very very helpful.

Homemade Tamarind Sauce: no chat is complete without this sweet imli sauce. So I prepared a batch of this to last me all Ramadan. Just imli, jaggery, few dates and kalunji. Hayee chatpati and mazedar!

Along with all these, I have a packet of french fries, frozen pizza dough and frozes parathas always stocked up!! With a toddler, it’s super helpful to be over prepared! all this is really helping me to focus more on using the time for zikr and duas rather than in the kitchen!

What’s your Ramadan freezer like?

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Okay before I go ahead, if you're a mum who enjoys buying all ready made stuff, you're amazing too. If you're someone who likes ordering, you're perfect too and if you're someone who has help at home in making these , you're super lucky!! This is my personal way as I enjoy doing all this. Please don't feel bad while reading that you're less worthy;) instead you can say – ''omg such a jobless mama 😂!'' . . Also please- we get one month a year to munch on samosas and pakorays- healthy gurus please let us enjoy and stand far away getting jealous on seeing us munching with green mint chutney! Hayeee😂😂 . . Link in bio @frommummytonayel – I would love to read what is in your freezer this Ramadan. Please leave me a comment! 🙂 enjoy 😉 . . ————————————————————————— #timeoutkidsdubai #uaemoms #dubaimoms #growingup #motherhood #dubaiblogger #uaemomblogger #momtogs #littleandbrave #honestparenting #mumlife #oureverydaymoments #letthembelittle #uniteinmotherhood #thatsdarling #nothingisordinary #mashAllah #mummyblogger #childhoodunplugged #clickinmoms #littlethings #dubaiexpat #hijabiblogger #muslimmom #motherhood #foodblogger #muslimstyle #mbdailyposts #muslimshblogger #ramadan #ramadanfood

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The story of Ayeina_offical❤️- a true inspiration for mums!

Getting into blogging has connected me to such amazing mums around the globe! There are so many strong and wise women who are multitasking in various areas of life. Who said being a mum is the end- for me it’s a total new start, a new perspective to life and a whole lot of learning!

This brings me up to an interesting series that I’m starting on my blog and here’s the first one today!

I will be interviewing and featuring my favorite inspirational mummy bloggers around the world and writing about them so that you could know them too!

Not only that, stay connected to me as I would be introducing many talented ladies working and earning from home through simple ideas! Isn’t that so cool😍😍

Ladies and Mummies and everyone else *drumrolls* please- here my first super talented and strong mummy Ayesha from Ayeina_offical.


1. Can you tell us something about the face /faces behind Ayeina? 

There are many faces behind Ayeina without whom we wouldn’t have been where we are today Alhamdulillah. But AYEsha and SamINA are the two founders of AYEINA (hence the name mixture – http://www.ayeina.com)

Sisters by blood but best friends by heart! And nursing mums to each other’s progeny 💞

2. Your blog has become a great source of advice, information and resource for Muslim mums all around the world. But what inspired you to start writing in the first place?

We used to write for the internet long before AYEINA was born but we put it all in one place at AYEINA because of the lack of freedom we had when writing for other platforms. It started as a sadaqa jaariyah and partly turned into business upon public demand of physical products – hence the journals came into being! 

 3.Were there any points along the way where you changed direction with your blog?

We never knew we’d publish books. Because we never started with that intent and even though at one point we really wanted to make “Alhamdulillah” into a journal, it was a scary thought because the concept was totally new. We had not seen any Islamic Journal in the market which meant we didn’t know how it would do if we jump into it. If it fails then all our investment goes to waste (which is huge when it comes to physical products). It’s easier to take a risk when there is a product of the same genre in the market doing well already. But nonetheless, we took the plunge while trusting Allah and are now so happy to see more and more journals coming out in the Muslim world! Alhamdulillah 💖

4. How do you manage time to run your blog efficiently with your kids and house chores?

Most of the times it’s completely chaotic 😂 we feel like a mess to be honest because giving everyone and everything your time means you forget yourself in the process. And this happens a lot with us! While trying to juggle all the balls in life, we keep dropping ourselves – our health, our me-time, our self-care etc.  – which is why we started the Pre-Ramadan Productive Course based around our Productivity journal to handle this situation of ours 😩 badly needed it Lol.

5. If you could go back in time and change one thing you’ve done or decision you’ve made as a parent, what would it be and why?

Oh that’s a tough one because mothers always feel so guilty about everything 😩 



6. what are your top three tips for surviving as a parent ?

1: Grab your shoes

2: Run

3: Don’t look back 😂

Jokes apart, gratitude and a no-comparison rule can do wonders for you in any relationship! Especially the relationships that are really demanding.

And both survival tips are interconnected actually. If you start comparing your motherhood life/kids/family to others, gratitude goes out the window. And vice versa. 

Another survival tip would be to utilise the time after Fajr. There is immense Barakah in the early mornings (as mentioned in this hadith: https://sunnah.com/urn/1265550 )

It is the last end of rope to your sanity most of the times. When you start your day feeling fulfilled, the rest of the day goes smoothly as well Alhamdulillah.

UNLESS your kids decide to have a post-fajr-party with you 😒 lol. 

7. Can you name your favourite parent bloggers on instagram and tell us why they are your favourites?

Oooo that’s a tough one as well. Gotta love @ruqayas.bookshelf as she writes so beautifully and really shows the power of gratitude (especially in tough times) and since we’re all about positivity, she stands out indeed 💖


8. ‘ Alhamdullilah for Series ‘ – is such a beautiful journal. Are there more such journals lined ahead for us? 

Yes. Many actually 🙈 in shaa Allah.The second in the series is the recently launched “I will in shaa Allaah – Productivity Journal for Muslims” which is based on a theme of a whiteboard (as opposed to #AlhamdulillahForSeries which revolved around a chalkboard theme).

The next one will in shaa Allah be an art journal (an Islamic coloring and activity book for adults) which will be based around a clip-board 🙂 

We started working on this coloring book soon after the gratitude journal BUT it has taken a lot of time due to it’s huge collaborative nature – more than 50 Muslim artists are coming together to form one journal as its based around our campaign #MuslimsCollab, So time is inevitable unfortunately. But hey! In shaa Allah soon! 💖

All of the future journals will be board themed as well lol. Bi’idhnillah 💜


9.  Lastly what advice would you give to today’s generation moms on raising kids?

If you consider your children as an amaanah from Allah and not your own property, it will make a huge difference in your dealings with them.

An amaanah that you have to return on the day of judgement and the One Who it actually belonged to, will ask how we took care of His amaanah.

Did we prepare that amaanah for jannah? Did we keep the amaanah safe from what could lead to hell-fire?

Seeing your kids in this light can bring a great change in your perspective in shaa Allah. And even though the responsibility starts to seem heavier that way, motherhood starts to feel much more meaningful. 

Because the One Who trusted you enough to give you His amaanah is the One Who rewards abundantly – without any limit! 

In shaa Allah 💖

May we be able to fulfil this amaanah in an ahsan way! Aameen 💜

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