Ramadan day 4 *Letter to the Heart that is numb*

*Letter to the Heart that is numb*

To the heart that is numb,

Standing in taraweeh (Ramadan night prayers) while everyone is weeping – except you. Your friends talk about how exhilarating fasting is for them – but all you feel is irritation; and that is if you feel anything at all. Your duas are just words you repeat – without heart.

What is the point of all of it? Your actions are robotic. Monotone. Without soul.

You wish you could be like that person praying next to you in taraweeh who sobs during every prostration. You want to be the one passionately pleading with Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) with humility. Your hope is that you can be that person whose heart is broken before God.

You know what, though? You, too, are special to Allah (swt).

You who recites the Qur’an because you know it is good.

You who prays because Allah (swt) commanded you to.

You who attends lectures on Islam because you want to feel closer to Him.

The Prophet ﷺ told us that the person who recites the Qur’an and struggles with the recitation receives twice the reward: for their recitation and for their effort and struggle. Ibn Al-Qayyim used this hadith (tradition of the Prophet ﷺ) as the basis for his statement that the person who struggles to be devoted in prayer gets twice the reward: for the parts that he was devoted, and for his struggle to stay focused.

*As long as you are trying, Allah (swt) is with you.*

The fact that you get up to pray qiyaam (night prayer) even though you feel nothing is appreciated by Allah (swt). When you mouth the words to your du`a even when your heart is numb, Allah (swt) knows how you feel. And you are rewarded for that. Do not think that this will go to waste.

Allah (swt) gets it.

Because you are not worshiping a feeling. You do not bow down solely for that ‘high’. *You prostrate only to the Lord of the feelings and the One who is the Most High*. You submit to Him – through your prayers, fasting and supplication – because you know you have a Merciful, Appreciative, Forgiving God, Who has the power to give life to everything that is dead.

*Including your heart.*

You know you have a Nurturing, Patient, Generous, Subtle and Kind Rabb who is can bring back whatever is lost.

*He can bring you back.*

So to the heart that is numb: Do not give up just yet. Your heart is on a journey. You are first and foremost worshiping your Lord. And He has promised you:

“And those who strive for Us – We will surely guide them to Our ways. And indeed, Allah is with the doers of good.” (Qur’an, 29:69)

As long as you are doing good, Allah (swt) will guide you and He is with you. Do you know what that means?

Imam Ash-Shawkani stated that Allah (swt) being with someone means more care, honoring and preference for the person.

And you what else? Allah loves what you do. He tells us:

“Indeed, those who have believed and done righteous deeds – the Most Merciful will appoint for them affection.” (Qur’an, 19:96)

Allah will not only love you, but He will show that love for you. He will bestow His affection upon you, and your heart will feel it.

So keep trekking. Your heart will open – He is, after all, al Fattah. Al-Fattah is He who opens whatever is closed; your heart included. You might wonder when and how, but just know that it will happen. It could be on the last night of Ramadan or it could be a month after Ramadan – your heart will open, ان شاءالله. The daily exercise you do might not look like much, but you will inevitably see the results if you persevere. Similarly, your good actions slowly chip away at what has been hardening your heart and, eventually, you will feel.

*And if it gets too much, just talk to Allah (swt)* Tell Him how you feel, and tell Him how you want to feel. Do it every night, and every time you feel empty. God is there; never underestimate your turning to Him. ‘Turning to Him’ does not just mean prayers and supplications; you can just tell Him what is in your heart.

On the Day of Judgment, you will be grateful for your perseverance and your hope in Him, because it will matter more than you will ever know. So push yourself and exert all the effort you can muster. *The tiniest ray of light can brighten the darkest of places.*

Love,

A fellow heart that is* numb

(*was)

**shared ** – source – unknown

Step inside my Ramadan Freezer!

Meal preps is an essential thing in Ramadan. For me, it saves me time and keep home cooked food stored right when you need the most! That is while going through a tough day with a 2 year old while fasting.

Okay before I go ahead, if you’re a mum who enjoys buying all ready made stuff, you’re amazing too. If you’re someone who likes ordering, you’re perfect too and if you’re someone who has help at home in making this- you’re super lucky!! This is my personal way as I enjoy doing all this. Please don’t feel bad while reading that you’re less worthy;) instead you can say – ”omg such a jobless mama 😂!”

I thought of taking you guys through my freezer, a typical Pakistani one in Ramadan. A week before Ramadan, I start preparing. This includes deep cleaning my home, rearranging shelves, ironing a few nice shalwar kameez and preparing food items that can be frozen.

I’m sure many of you do exactly or way better than this.

So here are few things that you will find in my fridge and freezer! Also you’re most welcome to join me for iftar! I’m prepared😛

Chicken Spring rolls! Ok- I love these!! So I make sure I am well stocked. One roll in my iftar is a must. I prepare the mixture with boiled and shredded chicken, cabbage, carrots, spring onions and capsicum. I even add boiled thin spaghetti! A little soya sauce, vinegar – salt and pepper! Done!

Boiled chicken breast chunks! These come in handy for quick chicken sandwiches. Just defrost, shread , add mayonnaise or anything you like with some iceberg lettuce and you’re good to go! 🙂 – Also, I don’t throw away the chicken stock, freeze them in batches as its super helpful to be added in other food you’re cooking 😎

Chickpeas: Okay this is a must if you’re a desi! Boiled chick peas – white and black! A nice spicy chana chat with papri , yoghurt, and chaat masala. Such a help to be stocked well! Not just chana chat, they’re super helpful in making quick chana pulao when you’re totally out of ideas to cook.

Mini Samosas: These I made yesterday as I was missing having them in iftar. Crispy and spicy. I made the mixture with chicken mince, onions, coriander and green chilies- perfect crunchy bite sized for iftar. In a few ,I just added shredded cheese as my husband likes them 🙂

Shami Kababs: Sehri is incomplete without a shami kabab with paratha. There are days when you’re out of eggs or not feeling like having the usual oatmeal, omlette or salan( gravy) , fry a kabab and enjoy with paratha! These you will find in my freezer all around the year. Not just Ramadan.

Frozen fruits for smoothies: This is something new that I’m doing this Ramadan. I have frozen batches of berries and bananas ( that went extra soft) in my freezer. For iftar, I just add them in the blender along with some fresh yoghurt and milk and a refreshing quick smoothie is ready! No need for ice! Very very helpful.

Homemade Tamarind Sauce: no chat is complete without this sweet imli sauce. So I prepared a batch of this to last me all Ramadan. Just imli, jaggery, few dates and kalunji. Hayee chatpati and mazedar!

Along with all these, I have a packet of french fries, frozen pizza dough and frozes parathas always stocked up!! With a toddler, it’s super helpful to be over prepared! all this is really helping me to focus more on using the time for zikr and duas rather than in the kitchen!

What’s your Ramadan freezer like?

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Okay before I go ahead, if you're a mum who enjoys buying all ready made stuff, you're amazing too. If you're someone who likes ordering, you're perfect too and if you're someone who has help at home in making these , you're super lucky!! This is my personal way as I enjoy doing all this. Please don't feel bad while reading that you're less worthy;) instead you can say – ''omg such a jobless mama 😂!'' . . Also please- we get one month a year to munch on samosas and pakorays- healthy gurus please let us enjoy and stand far away getting jealous on seeing us munching with green mint chutney! Hayeee😂😂 . . Link in bio @frommummytonayel – I would love to read what is in your freezer this Ramadan. Please leave me a comment! 🙂 enjoy 😉 . . ————————————————————————— #timeoutkidsdubai #uaemoms #dubaimoms #growingup #motherhood #dubaiblogger #uaemomblogger #momtogs #littleandbrave #honestparenting #mumlife #oureverydaymoments #letthembelittle #uniteinmotherhood #thatsdarling #nothingisordinary #mashAllah #mummyblogger #childhoodunplugged #clickinmoms #littlethings #dubaiexpat #hijabiblogger #muslimmom #motherhood #foodblogger #muslimstyle #mbdailyposts #muslimshblogger #ramadan #ramadanfood

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Chapter 1 : ‘Let’s learn together’ – – 3 hours in Ramadan

Starting today , I will be doing a mini series of small messages that we can can benefit from on my blog this Ramadan.

Please note- These will have some useful things I am reading and learning from various places too. I will be mentioning the correct sources inshAllah. I hope you find them useful and Please remember me and my family in duas 🙂

***Three hours not to be missed during Ramadan***

There are three hours each day in Ramadan not to be missed at all costs.

➡First Hour — Hour before breaking your fast

Prepare your meal early and dedicate this time for dua because the supplication of a fasting person before he breaks his fast is never rejected. Pray for yourself, your loved ones and the whole Ummah. And don’t forget our brothers and sisters being oppressed around the world and those who have passed away among the Muslims as they need your dua.

➡Second Hour — Hour in the last third of the night

This next hour is around the last third of the night. Dedicate this time with plenty of dua and seeking forgiveness as it’s a time when Allah SWT descends to the lowest heaven calls out: ‘Who will call upon Me, that I may answer Him? Who will ask of Me, that I may give him? Who will seek My forgiveness, that I may forgive him?’”

➡Third Hour — The Hour after the Fajr prayer until sunrise

The last hour should be spent after the Fajr until sunrise with lots of dhikr (remembrance of Allah) and reading Quran.

The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever prays Fajr in congregation then sits remembering Allaah until the sun rises, then prays two rak’ahs, will have a reward like that of Hajj and ‘Umrah.” He said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “In full, in full, in full.”

This hadeeth was classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

Gymtastic Time at My Gym

What an experience Nayel and Mummy had last week at My Gym! It’s a children fitness centre that has programs to facilitate kids from 3 month old to about 13 years old.

I wanted to have a structured physical activity for Nayel and Kidzapp helped me choose ‘My Gym’ for him. We booked a day session and walked in about 10 am. A clean place with different rooms for activities. Currently they’re running their Spring and Easter camps offering Arts n crafts, My Gym fitness, dance classes, Zumba, yoga , cooking and many more.

I wanted to experience their classic- Gyming Time – hence we headed into their gym studio.

A huge indoor room with different sections- a coloured ball pit, soft flooring, slides, swings, trampoline and different bars around along with an extra empty space where they host classes.

As a parent, you must be thinking – why My Gym?

That because children have loads of fun as they gain strength, balance, coordination, agility and flexibility while developing social skills, confidence and self-esteem in their everyday activities.

Nayel went crazy in their balls pit- jumping and playing with other kids. Next he spotted the slide- where at-least 10 times in a go- he went up and down! 😂- I just stood there watching him.

Soon the session began and I was so happy to see parents involved with their little ones! My Gym runs different activities each week and in one session around 4-5 new activities to keep kids involved and enthusiastic!

Our carefully constructed programs are constantly analyzed and adjusted according to up-to-the-minute advances in medical and psychological research. My Gym’s main objectives are to ensure that program ingredients are safe, age-appropriate and optimal for building self-esteem- My Gym

These are their different classes- My Gym offers Parent Participation classes and Independent classes too:

You can find all about it on:

www.mygymuae.com

We experienced their Gymster class where it was all about working on fine and gross motor ability and coordination via jumping , running, swinging, balancing and focusing !

Nayel enjoyed their swings the most! They had a plank to help kids balance and cross it! What a fun one!

After all the physical focusing activities- to calm kids down, they had a red circle play time where kids got toys and puzzles to play with and interact with other kids while parents stood outside the circle. This was to develop their social skills and independence.

The last part of the session had a puppet reading time.

What a rollercoaster experience for Nayel! He came home and slept for hours- tired and happy! ❤️

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Please check their website on the list of prices and class schedules.

www.mygymuae.com

My verdict- super fun and challenging for kids ! It’s good to take out their underutilized energy in a fun way! I’d recommend parents to experience this with their kids!

Also download Kidzapp to keep you updated with upcoming camps and activities with MyGym!

Sneak Peak into Xpark Junior!

Slides, swings, pets and water fun- you name it and you’ll find it all at a super cute new place in Dubai called Xpark Junior . It’s located just off the Kite Beach Dubai and is a lovely new place for little ones.

Making the most of the last few cool days here in Dubai before it gets terribly hot, I wanted to take Nayel for outdoor play, so I grabbed my phone and instantly opened kidzapp. That’s how I found Xpark Jr and got super excited! Come let me take you through Xpark Junior via a quick tour!

•What is Xpark Jr?

It’s the latest adventure spot for children aged 1-12 along with their parents / guardians. A natural playscape park with activities.

How is X park Jr different from any other park?

It’s a unique one. From running to climbing, from jumping to swinging, from petting to splashing- and much much more. It’s a park having thick green trees that envelop the entire area, water channels flowing on the sides, wooden bridges and ropes to get adventurous with slides and swings to add more to it! Rocks, sandpits , tree houses and wooden dens making it all look like a jungle theme or safari kind perhaps! ❤️

Some of the main highlights

1. A cute small petting zoo with bunnies, parrots, tortoise and chickens! ( a pony and some more birds to arrive soon!)

2. Splash pads– these were Nayel’s favorite of all , ofcourse after those rabbits! Running water and a small water fall along with lots of toys scattered around for kids to get wet in and play. Perfect for hot summer days!

How much does the ticket cost?

XPark Junior is open every day from 8am to 6pm, and admission costs Dh45 for a child and one adult for two hours of free play. Opening hours will change during summer months; visit ww.xparkjr.com

The way the park has been designed allows children to let their imaginations run riot, to gradually build their confidence levels and take what its owners describe as “healthy risks”. kevin Hackett

Other than all the play and adventure, X park offers art and crafts in a lovely indoor place with high ceilings and fans giving it a natural look. Nayel was so busy in running and enjoying the water fun that he couldn’t get time for that!

There is also a nice cafe kind of area where you can grab a snack or a juice to relax while kids enjoy outside.

Moreover- Nice and clean toilets for boys and girls separately to change and freshen up!

Things I’d recommend:

1- Pack an extra pair of clothes/ swimwear , towel and a sunscreen as hot days stand strong ahead!

2- Carry your flip flops and dress light to be able to enjoy with your kiddos.

3- Charge your phone for lovely pictures around!

4- Go around 4 pm or after when it’s not very sunny to make the most of it.

5. Be with your child ‘ALL’ the time- the park requires adult supervision as places have sharp ends, water area with slippery rocks and climbing around alone by kids is hard. It’s a lovely adventurous park to be explored together !

Nayel and I had a lovely time at X park Junior. It’s definitely the new kind of ‘safe play’ for little ones. It’s a special place- all and all about messy carefree fun! What are you waiting for , head to X park junior before it gets way too hot! And don’t forget to give our big ‘Hi’ to Mr bunny!