My Hajj Kahani – part 2

My Hajj Kahani – Part 2.

We were in Dubai, mama in Lahore and the package we chose plans and runs from Karachi. Alhamdullilah once we initiated, Allah helped each step to go forward. We have a general concept of going for Hajj in old age. Even if we can afford, we plan it for later time. I don’t understand why. Do we all know exactly how long are we in this world? Is tomorrow promised? Then why leave the major for last? Mama had the same perception- her initial reaction was that her daughters are still not married and she can’t leave them. But Alhamdullilah she took some time to decide and finally stepped up. We don’t have a brother. So it had to be with one of us. Me being the first to go- couldn’t leave without ma. May Allah call my sisters too soon. IA.

She flew here to me a week ago we had to fly for Hajj. Our Hajj group gave us flexibility to book our tickets, so 5 months prior, we did those which made us leave directly from Dubai and come back here too without having to go to Pakistan. Biggest blessing!

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Upon reaching Makkah- the first day was a tough one- 9 hours in a bus- midnight somewhere we finally reached our hotel and were in ihrams for umrah. We thought of resting for a bit – but as soon as we got there, our souls just wanted to enter haram. I was this close to seeing Kaaba for the first time. The energy revived – no sleep to fatigue. I kept remembering all duas I had to say upon looking at the Kaaba for the first time- it’s a special dua qabool moment.

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I kept my eyes down until I was very close to the grand black cube. And as I lifted my eyes-I had goosebumps- numbness and fear. Tears rolled down- like a stream- my first words ‘Alhamdullilah- ya Allah-‘ I don’t remember what I asked at that time. I was in some other state. Just crying and in a shock that Allah chose me out of all to be here at that particular moment. That Allah loves me- that He might have loved something I did. I don’t know what that was- but I prayed I kept doing it more and more- to gain His love.

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Every other person I glanced upon had tears. Hand rose- lips muttering- eyes submissive- there- all are same- you’re at His honor- His home.

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To be cont.. .

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My Hajj Kahani – Part 1

My Hajj Kahani – Part 1

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Every year we had a family tradition of visiting a new country. Alhamdullilah we’ve been to beautiful places until a year ago Baita’s dada abu sat us all down and emphasized on how important Hajj is. The idea being that if we can save and spend traveling around, our priority should be this farz first. Had he not explained that to us the other day, probably we would have taken it very easy. Hajj is costly. People save their entire life just for it. We made our minds to start saving and go for it as soon as we’re good with numbers in account. I remember- praying 2 nafl and making a niyat one day after a namaz – we had a plan of doing it in coming 5 years whenever we would save enough. Little did I know it would be the same year.

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My best friend went for Hajj last year- so while I was talking to her and sharing how expensive it is- she said- that’s not your concern- just make an intention- a super strong one and you won’t even know how things will fall into a place. And that was it. I did- and I saw. Allah swt says : ‘Call upon me, I will answer you.’ 40:60.

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That was the first miracle – within a year we were able to save up for our journey – Alhamdullilah- I had intended of selling off my little gold that I had- but that was never needed. It still seems miraculous- I’m telling you guys- Hajj is a miracle itself.

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The next thing we did was inquire about Hajj packages that would suit out budget. It was Feb this year. I wasn’t worried about Nayel at that point. I knew it’s His call so He would find a way and manage. I had to do my part..

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Hajj is a special journey. Not everyone gets to be invited by Allah swt- there- you’re His guest. And the way he serves you and takes care of you- is out of this world. Each step you ask something- the next moment it’s with you. I used to hear these things- and when I experienced them- it blew my mind. SubhanAllah.

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I had always dreamed of going for Hajj with my parents. Papa was called by Allah swt early- but I wanted my mama with me. So the next stage was how to take her with me. 🌟

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To be cont..

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🌷 *Taking PILLS to prevent your MENSES at Hajj?*❓

Below is an article that I’m sharing as received. Source unknown.

🌷 *Taking PILLS to prevent your MENSES at Hajj?*❓

by Asma bint Shameem

If you’re taking your pills to prevent your period while you’re at hajj, this is the advice I give you as a doctor.

1. DO NOT miss even a SINGLE dose.

2. Make SURE you take the pills at the EXACT SAME TIME EVERY DAY.

Do NOT delay EVEN by an HOUR.

Otherwise you might start SPOTTING.

3. Keep in mind the TIME DIFFERENCE between your city and Saudi Arabia.

So if you live in the US, and you’re taking this pill every morning, that is EVENING time in Saudi.

Make sure you remember that, so that you can ADJUST the time of your pill accordingly.

4. Keep this time difference in mind even on the AIRPLANE.

Make sure to take this pill every 24 hours at the SAME time.

5. If you do experience spotting/discharge, DOUBLE the dose for the next couple of days or so.

6. If you forget to take the pill at its usual time, take it AS SOON as you remember.

7. If you get a colored discharge/spotting even though you were regularly taking the pills on time, DO NOT WORRY.

You can STILL pray and do Tawaaf and all other ibaadaat.

That’s because this discharge will be counted as Istihaadhah because you were taking the pills to PREVENT the menses.

🍃 Someone asked the scholars on Islamqa:

“A woman used PILLS to prevent menses so that she could do Hajj, but when she got TIRED she had some kind of brownish discharge.

What is the ruling on that?

They said:

*”That does not affect anything*.

Umm ‘Atiyyah radhi Allaahu anhaa said:

“We used to not regard the yellowish or brownish discharge as being of any significance,” even if it was ongoing.

*So long as it is not PURE BLOOD, then it is of NO SIGNIFICANCE*.”

(Islamqa Fatwa # 109346)

🍃And a woman asked Shaikh Ibn Uthaymeen:

“I am a woman who tied her tubes to prevent birth and when I arrived to perform Umrah, I used pills to prevent menstruation.

A small amount of brown discharge came from me before Fajr after using the pills for a week and it was the time menstruation usually discharges

So is this brown discharge from menstruation or is this brown discharge from stress which occurs because establish I the night prayer? Knowing also that I have used these pills for two weeks and it has not affected me and there was no brown discharge?

Shaikh Ibn Uthaymeen said:

“The answer to this long question is that this brown discharge *does NOT PREVENT the PRAYER nor FAST because it is NOT menstruation*.

Umm ‘Atiyyah radhi Allaahu anhaa said:

“After we were pure, we did not consider the yellow or muddy discharge to be anything (i.e. of the menses blood)” [al-Bukhari]

So we say to this female questioner to pray and fast and there is no blame upon you”.

[Fatawaa al-Haram al-Makki year 1414 H. Tape no. 2b]

And Allaah knows bestz

10 Top ideas to keep kids busy this Summers!

10 Top ideas to keep kids busy this Summers!

Summers are daunting everyone- parents to keep first! it’s hot outside and they’re out of control inside – krein to kya? How much screen time is okay. What should be their routine. Eating habits, sleeping timings, setups all are thrown out of the happy mama window! So I thought of writing a post to help you all in fun and engaging ways to keep kids busy during summers!

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1. Let them get bored! Please yar- let them cry and find ways to keep themselves busy. You will actually do good for them. Providing all the time makes kids lazy and stubborn. They need to man up and woman up too!

2. Duty charts! Be creative in making some charts at home- reward charts as you can say. And let them work at home. Assign chores such as setting up tables, watering plants, organizing rooms. As little as 3 yr olds- lots to do for them. Also- stay true to your words then. Choose rewards that would actually happen. Not like telling them well take you disney world if your throw your mess in garbage 😂- realistic, small and easy ones!

3. Find out free activities in your areas. Add them on the reward charts.

4. For little older kids- play games with them! Monopoly, scrabble, cards, name place animal thing etc kinds! Hello- we all grew up with them. Hide the ipads!!

5.Create mess craft buckets. Recycle and reuse material from home. Get them to play like inventors and create something.

6. Create Summer boards and scrap books. Pictures memories, cards drawing. They’re great!

7. Plan and write grocery lists and take kids along to help you buy stuff.

8. Make summer popsicles with kids. Fruit punches, cupcakes – kitchen fun rocks!

9. Night picnics in balconies, gardens – star gazing, mini home made dinner parties in backyards!

10.Reading guys. One of those things that you just can’t miss. If you’re lucky to have libraries around, take them there. If now- create mini fun book reading corners. Play review telling sessions after reading, give them a post reading task like a craft, puzzle, QAs etc. make reading meaningful:)

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Most importantly- its okay if all fails. Don’t work too hard to keep them happy. Have lazy messy free days :)! What’s your fav👇

Mummy- You’re not alone this Ramadan!

This morning baita had one tantrum after the other. And just when I was sitting trying to focus in Quran- house was quiet. I ran in to check and found the bathroom sink clogged with rolls and rolls of toilet paper. The entire bathroom flooded and Nayel all wet. I cried. And cried. It was one of those tough days where you feel you can’t cope up… Ramadan also means a lots of patience. Like lots and lots for mummies suffering caffeine withdrawal headches and sleepless days and nights! And that feeling that you’re not doing enough.

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If you’re a mother who’s kids are going to school in this heat- you’re not alone. If you’re a mum who’s baby needs to be breastfed all night and you struggle tj make sehri—- you’re not alone. If you’re a mom who’s toddler keeps throwing tantrums at home- of mess and toys and useless demands- you’re not alone. If you’re a mum who struggles to focus in Quran and namaz- and failing terribly again and again cuz of your kids jumping at you and pulling your scarves- you’re not alone. If you’re a mum who has a million plans for crafts and books and you’re kids aren’t interested in them- you’re not alone. If you’re a mama who’s running fast picking and dropping kids from school and helping them with homeworks and exams you’re not alone. If you’re a pregnant mama missing the Ramadan feeling- please don’t be sad- you’re blessed to be in this – make dua- you’re not alone! We all are in this together and you know the best part- this is all ibadat- it’s the best you’re doing! Allah is Rahem- Ibadat is just not namaz and Quran. It’s so much more than that! It’s your intention and the little things you’re doing to keep the house and days going smooth. .

Don’t let the spirit of Ramadan get so hard on you that you start feeling demotivated and down. It’s time to lift your iman up. Whatever you’re doing- just make an intention to do it for Allah- and there it is- multipled sawab by 1000! Keep making duas- and be assured all is well!

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Motherhood is hard- these years are the toughest. Things won’t be this way forever. Get up- make wuzu and start again. Being able to experience this month is a blessing itself ❤️

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