Why my child will not apologize!

You’re in a playground and your child hits another child- you quickly jump in , give your little ones some angry stares and ask them to say ‘sorry’! Well- they do say- and then what? They are happily let go off.. what do you think, do our 2 and 3 year olds actually feel sorry for hurting the other child? No, they cannot empathize yet- instead the only behavior that they are learning is ‘to- lie’ .Now you must be thinking how.. so let me explain a little more.

So by saying a blank sorry, they know they can get away. So why wouldn’t they. They don’t mean that sorry, they don’t care what the other kid is feeling. All they’re learning is just say ‘sorry’ and that’s the key to jump out of it. And next time they’d be shoving another kid at the playground.

Forcing the child to apologise in this instance doesn’t make the child sorry, in fact all it does is force them to lie.

You might be thinking ‘so what? They have to learn’- As parents, we need to teach our kids how to empathize- as that’s the key for making them actually learn what sorry is. Not the one which is empty and hollow. But the one that actually would mean they care.

So if you don’t let your little one say sorry, does that mean you’re a bad parents and not teaching them skills? No, instead- the right way would be to first apologize the child and his/her parents yourself infront of your child as you would genuinely mean that sorry and your little one would be observing you. Next- take your child in an alone place and explain what he did and how his friend was hurt- why was he crying. And that they have to use their words instead of hands or body. The chances are, they might still shove other kids around as they’re 2 or 3 years old-but if you keep repeating that, you will definitely raise kids who would actually mean ‘being sorry’ when they’re older, and isn’t that what we as parents really want? .

It’s time we practice meaningful parenting rather than what the obvious is- invest time to think and read about your child’s behavior- it will help you to handle them better and smarter.

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What do you think?

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Why my child will not say ‘SORRY’! . . You’re in a playground and your child hits another child- you quickly jump in , give your little ones some angry stares and ask them to say ‘sorry’! Well- they do say- and then what? They are happily let go off.. what do you think, do our 2 and 3 year olds actually feel sorry for hurting the other child? No, they cannot empathize yet- instead the only behavior that they are learning is ‘to- lie’ .Now you must be thinking how.. so let me explain a little more. So by saying a blank sorry, they know they can get away. So why wouldn’t they. They don’t mean that sorry, they don’t care what the other kid is feeling. All they’re learning is just say ‘sorry’ and that’s the key to jump out of it. And next time they’d be shoving another kid at the playground. Forcing the child to apologise in this instance doesn't make the child sorry, in fact all it does is force them to lie. You might be thinking ‘so what? They have to learn’- As parents, we need to teach our kids how to empathize- as that’s the key for making them actually learn what sorry is. Not the one which is empty and hollow. But the one that actually would mean they care. So if you don’t let your little one say sorry, does that mean you’re a bad parents and not teaching them skills? No, instead- the right way would be to first apologize the child and his/her parents yourself infront of your child as you would genuinely mean that sorry and your little one would be observing you. Next- take your child in an alone place and explain what he did and how his friend was hurt- why was he crying. And that they have to use their words instead of hands or body. The chances are, they might still shove other kids around as they’re 2 or 3 years old-but if you keep repeating that, you will definitely raise kids who would actually mean ‘being sorry’ when they’re older, and isn’t that what we as parents really want? . It’s time we practice meaningful parenting rather than what the obvious is- invest time to think and read about your child’s behavior- it will help you to handle them better and smarter. . What do you think?

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